This has book has been helpful for me and caused me to reflect on how I handle different situations with my children and what I can do to improve. When they feel protected and safe, they are able to explore and engage in the world creatively. It provides real-to-life examples, research and practices in a book that I just couldn't put down and guarantee that I will pick up again and again! With 20 years of meditation experience studying in Thailand and Nepal, as well as in the West, Shapiro brings an embodied sense of mindfulness to her scientific work. We offer this book to support you in becoming the most trustworthy, flexible and intuitive gardener-parent you can be. Because I listened to it, I didn't practice any of the exercises, but I have a hard copy from the library to look back at. Two examples in support of this main idea: firstly, the book describes three levels of consciousness when it comes to raising our children.
The kids turn into very selfish teenagers and adults who can't seem to manage even the simplest of adult tasks. This beautiful book is a wonderful guide to parents who wish to lovingly, mindfully, and clearly accompany their children at the beginning of their life journey. The power of this book is that it provides a wealth of information, resources, practices and suggestions, while at the same time affirming and reinforcing the inner wisdom of the heart that all loving parents already know and possess. By letting your children witness your own personal struggles and positive responses to those struggles you will set an example that will stay with them for their entire lives, and help them to grow into happy, healthy adults. With physical mindfulness exercises and sample parent-child dialogues and scenarios, the authors provide practical ways to strengthen the natural process of prefrontal cortex brain development.
It reminds parents that to effectively communicate and influence their children they should strive to be consultants and not drill sergeants. Reactive, in which we are a step behind our kids and getting frustrated. You will do as I say. In addition, she offers evaluations G. Ever feel like you are constantly disciplining or nagging your children? Grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience, this pioneering book redefines discipline and outlines the five essential elements necessary for children to thrive: unconditional love, space for children to be themselves, mentorship, healthy boundaries, and mis-takes that create learning and growth opportunities.
This is a great book for those dealing with emotional and sensitive preschoolers. Shapiro and White argue that this is not accurate. Loaded with powerful exercises grounded in clinical expertise and scientific theory, this book will help all of us navigate the path of parenting with greater ease, clarity, and grace. Rifka Schonfeld has served the Jewish community for close to thirty years. Discipline and the brain ; The basics of attachment ; Qualities and capacities of a healthy, self-disciplined individual ; The promise and perils of praise. They have good intentions: They hope by giving nearly unlimited freedom and autonomy, that they will raise caring, empathetic adults who function well in society. Nor will pushing and pulling it result in a tree's maturing and bearing the fruit before it is time.
Unconditional love ; Space ; Mentorship ; Healthy boundaries ; Mis-takes ; The heart of maturity ; Epilogue -- Appendices. I did not find this book to be particularly helpful with parenting. Protection from other invasive species? I believe connection is essential but children are more resilient than what she gives them credit for and sometimes they also need to learn that there are tasks that must be done in the moment and they can wait. An effective way of achieving this parental presence is through mindfulness, and the stories, ideas, and exercises of Mindful Discipline offer a fabulous guide to creating the deep and receptive internal knowing that will empower your children to become resilient, reflective, and compassionate beings themselves. First published in 2006 and now in its second edition the book advises parents to think you are on a reality show, someone is always watching, so be careful of what you say and how you say it to model good behavior and emotional processing.
The advice is more general, but it is worthwhile, like suggesting parents study actions of those who have more control over your child that you do, like teachers. The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance—From Toddlers to Teens by Kim John Payne Kim John Payne is well-known for his 2010 book Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids. Still I support some pretty key ideas in this book nonattachment, being objective, leaving room to grow, gentle guidance, letting go of the need to control. If the seed receives the nourishment it needs, it will grow root, push its way out of the ground and develop through various phases: shoot, sapling and, eventually, a full grown tree that bears the fruit of maturity. In Mindful Discipline, internationally recognized mindfulness expert Shauna Shapiro and pediatrician Chris White weave together ancient wisdom and modern science to provide new perspectives on parenting and discipline.
Responsive, in which we are better able to anticipate and meet needs, overcoming what your kid wants because it's in their best interest. I think every person who is or will be a parent should read this, even 10 years in advance-it will change There is no better way to describe this book, than using its quotes from within. Unconditional love gives children the space to be themselves. Twenty-five years ago mindfulness saved my life. Introduction ; Why discipline matters ; How self-discipline develops ; Mindfulness ; The mindful discipline approach ; Relationship -- The five essential elements of mindful discipline. Why not just come out and say it! Description Raising happy, compassionate, and responsible children requires both love and limits.
She can be reached at 718-382-5437 or at rifkaschonfeld gmail. While there are times where we might let the child lead, in the broad sense, children need to know that the parent is taking care of them. A gardener knows that she can't simply shout at the plant to make it grow faster. Mindfulness used to explain the discipline, both own as well as to teach to our children, not so much to avoid problems, but rather to allow them to find their way guided by the true self. One of the strengths of this volume is its clear explanation of the history of discipline philosophies and its description of the three major psychological approaches when it comes to discipline—affective, behavioral, and cognitive. This book does give a few real life examples, but they are often totally far fetched and unrealistic.
There is no better way to describe this book, than using its quotes from within. Now it informs all of my actions, including the way I am with my children. In Mindful Discipline, a pediatrician and an internationally recognized mindfulness expert offer parents simple yet powerful tools for raising mindful, respectful, and responsible children. She starts out as a seed: full of potential, but undeveloped. This book is a gift! Not only is it a great resource for parenting, but it really brought perspective to the parent individually - how we not only discipline our children, but ourselves. Try to see them as opportunity and not a problem. In this book, you will also discover parenting practices such as setting limits with love, working with difficult emotions, and forgiveness and compassion meditations that place discipline within a context of mindfulness.
At times, we might cultivate generalized capacities such as middos or courage; at other times, how to tie shoes and brush teeth. I am so grateful for the existence of this book-it will bring harmony to the world. Grounded in clinical studies and the latest research in mindfulness and neuroscience, this book will teach you how to foster your child's emotional intelligence and self-esteem while also encouraging genuine cooperation. Some of the mindfulness exercises seem a bit mumbo-jumbo, but I shouldn't knock it until I try it. Nonetheless there is a whole bunch of information packed within its pages, enough that you really ought to take notes.