In their groundbreaking classic, For Men Only, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn reveal the eye opening truths and simple acts that will radically improve your relationship with the woman you love. Publishers Weekly, November 7, 2005 Asserting that men have the power to fix their broken marriages because they are men, psychiatrist and marriage counselor Haltzman put together a guidebook that helps men give their wives exactly what they want and receive from them exactly what they hoped for the day they got married. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage. View marriage as your most important task, Haltzman urges men, and pursue success as you would anything else that matters. Despite the author's unorthodox theoretical groundwork, the strategies are commonsensical--make marriage your job, learn to listen, know your wife, aim to please. However, it wasn't until I started Un-Learning, that I truly became the well-rounded confident man I am today. Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including The First Way: Make Your Marriage Your Job, The Second Way: Know Your Wife, The Third Way: Be Home Now, The Fourth Way: Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The Fifth Way: Learn to Listen, The Sixth Way: Aim to Please, The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Way: Introduce Yourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love.
Long road ahead, I'll reread this book often until this thinking is a part of me. How can women take an author seriously who repeatedly insults them? He then goes on to explain how. Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The author emphasizes repeatedly that this book is for married men, as opposed to men who are simply in relationships big difference , but I still find the book to be helpful. Smalley helps men understand their wives and meet their needs in order to establish a loving, thriving relationship that will last a lifetime. And their wives should read it, too! I am looking forward greatly to really trying to get to know my wife like it is our first time meeting each other.
Some good suporting reads: Men are from Mars; His Needs, Her Needs; The 5 Love Languages This book is truly helpful, I am looking forward to using what I have learned to rebuild my marriage if I can because I can finally see that all of our arguing over the years has been about our Granted I hold most of the blame differences in the way we communicate with each other. The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex. Also, how it's important to confront conflict, and not to fear it, that's a less that all married people need, but especially for men. Then why not try some Love and Respect. In The Secrets of Happily Married Women, Dr. From the authors perspective, it has become accepted that the female style of relating is the correct model, and he refutes that. Theydon't approach relationships with the same skills and techniquesthat women do--and viva la difference.
Well, probably part of the reasons males have excelled is explicitly because being able to work upwards of 60 hours a week has always been relatively easy for them, and it enabled a great deal of success in all these things, but did not particularly help them with regards to their relationships with their wives. He just suggested that both need to reevaluate the way they look at things and that a change in attitude can go a long way. It will change you and your marriage all for the better. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives. I have not read this authors book giving advice to men but in this book, women are encouraged to mind read men and to not expect men to mind read them. This is truth and knowledge in its finest print.
In Veronica Mars, a series that gender studies scholars write articles analyzing how Veronica takes on the patriarchy, Veronica's mother leaves her because of drug problems, and she is raised by a single father. The Second Way: Know Your Wife. Moreover, most members of the audience bought copies of his book after hearing his presentation. But the thing that most impressed me is that it really gives people, but men, in particular, a very solid, coherent framework of a woman's emotional needs. Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman'sinsights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forumfor married men. According to the author, a grave fault of marriage therapy is that they try to get men to feminize their psyche. A true gem and very interesting.
This book gave me some amazing insight into myself and my marriage. These are women from Dr. There's really no middle ground and after reading this you'll understand exactly why. It does go into lengthy, scientific detail about the biological differences between men and women. They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do and viva la difference. Basically, that was what I interpreted his approach to be- to help you understand the way we view things and why we make your life miserable because of it. A must-read for any woman in a serious relationship with a man.
Having the same argument over and over with your family? Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman's insights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forum for married men. From the authors of the best-selling The Secrets of Happily Married Men comes the much-anticipated follow-up book, The Secrets of Happily Married Women. The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful 'to do' lists and a multitude of examples. If it works as well as I hope it does, I will give it five stars. I'd slip this book into any other gift you're giving the bride and groom. Are you struggling with communication, trust, or connection problems with your partner? She recently ended a long marriage that died for her long ago, despite effort and devotion on her part.
They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do—and viva la difference. But this new book is totally different: a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view - men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. You and your wife will thank you later. The breakup anddivorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couplestherapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creepswho'd better change fast or else. Also guys, I found that he touched on every subject that I can think women take issue with or are confused by.